So this boy bought me pizza for lunch today...
A collage with Jeremy when we are both having yummy pizzas together, even though we are 3000km apart. Thanks for feeding me even though you're not in Singapore(:
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Haven't seen the boyfriend for a really long time as he is currently on exchange now, in Taiwan National Sun Yat-Sen University, which marks out first semester apart. To be honest, it wasn't easy, and it still isn't of course, and I am really glad that we are still holding on. We really faced many challenges, really. It was like a crazy roller coaster ride -- those with maximum shock ratings (no joke) -- and we were just like going through all the highs, lows, plunges and all.
And after close to three months, I guess the only advice I can give, is that: the key to long-distance relationships, is just lots and lots of COMMUNICATION. It's like, I cannot seem stress or emphasize this word enough (which explains my capital letters) because really, everything stems from communication.
Firstly, I feel that paranoia is inevitable, especially if two people haven't got together for really long yet. I mean, it's not that we don't trust each other, perhaps it's because we can't physically see each other, we cannot detect their moods in a way. So we tend to not filter what we want to tell each other, which makes it worse when both of us just wants to bombard whatever happened today to one another. With all the mindless bombarding of happenings, sometimes we kind of let down our sensitivity filter, in a way that the opposite party starts getting a little sour with your interactions with the opposite gender.
This ain't the problem actually. The real problem arises, when that party swallows the emotions. So either one keeps swallowing his/her emotions (which is bound to erupt I promise) and perhaps just trying to settle the paranoia on his/her side and eventually the emotion will get so overwhelming that it engulfs you (I told you so). And you just break down, start all the mindless arguments over the nitty gritty things, gets irritated easily, and all these things starts pulling the distance further. WHICH IS REALLY BAD.
Yeap, All I can say is, communicate how you feel. Feeling jealous? Speak your mind. Feeling annoyed? Let him/her know. Need some assurances? Ask for them subtly (although sometimes my blockhead doesn't get the hint either). And at times, just leave it out of your head. The more you think about it, the more unhappy you feel, the more annoyed you get and then the more it hurts your relationship.
And the last thing. Ask genuine questions, like things you really want to know. Remember important dates. Engage in a conversation/ Start one only when you're free; multitasking by talking to your friends, whatsapping your partner, having a meal, etc etc is NOT going to work. Trust me. Not only will you not enjoy your meal, you will be so confused with the conversations, your replies are going to sound like crap, and they all won't work well, so why not just do one thing at a time?
Teehee. That's all I've got for now and yes we are happily attached(:
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"It means being separated and nothing changes."
